Dear Chix,
Hanggang kaylan ba dapat mag hold on sa isang relationship?
I'm in a relationship for almost 2 years now. My BF works in a brewery company. Of course, before me there were other girls but I don't care because it was his past and I believe I am his present and future. Ours is not a perfect relationship, hindi lang din naman iisang beses ko sya nahuli flirting with other girls. Pero, nagpasensya ako, forgive him everytime he say sorry and show remorse.
Just this holiday season, he went home with me to the Province to spend New Year with my family. We were happy and I could feel his sincerity towards our relationship.
He went back alone to the city because he needs to report to work. I decided not to come with him, I want to spend more time with my family.
While I was still in the Province, he texted me to ask permission if he could attend his friend's birthday party. I said it was okay but reminded him not to drink too much.
I went back to the city and as usual, I opened my FB. And there it was, posted in my BF's wall, the pictures of him and his ex-girlfriend with their barkadas. I confronted him but he denied everything. He told me that he was not doing anything wrong, that I have "utak na makitid." He got mad at me. But pictures don't lie. They were so sweet. One picture showed as if they were kissing.
As Isaid, I caught him flirting with girls before but this one is different because I know how much he loved this ex-girlfriend before they parted ways.
It hurts so bad. It hurts more when I learned from his friend na nagkikita pa sila while he's in relationship with me.
Should I fight for our relationship? Or just let go so as not to be hurt anymore?
Brokenhearted Me
19 comments:
that's relationship. ups and downs. from the hurts you'll learn. but if you'll ask if hanggang san ka mag hold on, ask yourself.. ikaw lang makakasagot. :D
Girl.. take it easy.. Past is past man kaya.. Confirmed it first before exage reaction =) Malay mo din kung sino nag first move between them. Sometimes pictures Lie and causes damage na mahirap pangatawanan.. palipasin muna ang galit bago kau mag-usap para maging malinaw ang lahat..
Talk to him first =) Good Luck.
its hurt..... pero kung aku saU..ikain muna lang yan maraming FUDS....ehehhee mabusog kapa!
u know what, giving chance once is little and giving second chance is enough but more chances are too much and over...
Ayon kay borking haert too.....
Girl don't be bug with a picture na sabi mo nga "as if they were kissing".... trust your man and love him. pero pag napatunayan mo na tama ang iyong hinala... patulugin mo at pakuan na pako sa noo... hahahaha....that's just one spice in your relationship girl.. kaya u yan.. Godbless :-)
@Angel Redge anong size ng pako yan?
gurl, although we say past is past but then the fact that we couldn't take our past apart from our life then that really matters.. ano na lang ang saying na " first love never dies?" hehe i hope it make sense. :)
mareng past is past remember kaw ang present at future nya...
in relationship you must trust your partner in whatever action he take...
remember that they were x and di mo maaalis sknla na mgkumustahan... and mareng remember ang liit ng mundong ginagalawan ntn..
you must talk to your partner hindi ganyan na nagrereact n wla sa lugar...gusto mo piktusan ko yang gums mo...
or better to change your boyfriend and give it to me pra makapoks n jukems....
p.s wag ka mgmaganda hah kc di bagay sau lol..:)
Think twice, and balance the situation. Oo nga nman, it is just a stupid picture of him and an x-gf w/ a sweet shots. Hindi yan enough proof pra husgahan mo xia. Give him a chance if mero ka pang love natitira, If wla na then let him go.
gurl pasalamat ka na lang at nangbabae xa...eh ung sa akin nanglalaki..huhuhuhh
bayuta ang bf ko gurl tanggap mo?
ano mas prefer mo nanbabae ang bf mo o nanlalaki?
hahai buhay. ika nga ni aleng dionesia "mga bayyuuuuot wai mga susuuu"
:)~
for me, you need/you must let it go now...,i dont if im right, pero ang tao kc nag hahanap ng perpekto kahit alam niyang walang perfepkto sa mundong ibabaw only GOD., iniwan niya ang ex niya dahil hindi siya kontento, he needs more satisfaction, nakita k niya, which he thinks that you are much great than her ex., now that he finds out that you are no much to his ex or maybe you didnt get near to her level, that is why he keep coming back to her ex...it hurts but that is the truth... that is the nature of man,,.your boyfriend dont know how to love at all...break him right now... wag kang mag alala hndi ikaw ang kawawa, siya!!! dahil hndi siya marunong magmahal, wala ring magmamahal s kanya., mararamdaman at mararanasan din niya ang na feel mo or even much worst...
ahoo.. im a 'lil bit ka'relate! pero alam mo girl, long relationship na ang pinagsamahan niyo, ryt? pero as wat u've said ders always that matter na lagi niyong pinag'aawayan is ung past ng ex bf mo.. dapat pba? well, can't blame u 4 dat! it only shows na u really love him.. dont push urself to the limit. kasi ikaw lang nman ang maka2alam nyan! but the best way to do cguro, is to talk to him, clear everything, listen and decide :) always remember! give importance to TRUST than LOVE! acheche..
So many questions but the answers are so few. First love? Sino ba makalimot ng first love? First love nya ba ang ex na yan? Or 2nd first love nya na? baka 3rd first love? :D
Ano ba talaga ang reason pumunta sya dun sa birthday party? Pumunta ba sya dahil sa birthday? Baka dahil sa mga barkada? Worse, baka dahil sa ex nya? I can say dahil nga sa ex, kasi i assume somehow the guy feels there is excitement in seeing his ex especially if they have been through alot during thir relationship. But Im sure it was just for that moment, for that party. It was not for longing or wanting to be with his ex again forever. I know kasi I felt it once but I couldnt bring myself to go to a party because I know may masasaktan ako, It could be me or it could me my own "present and future" or probably my ex.Im not saying na tama agn ginawa nya.
Anyway, kahit ano pa ang sagot sa mgg katungan, ang "present and future" ay masasaktan talaga. Kahit ano pa man ang reason it was a mistake in the first place for going to party, he should have considered what his "present and future" would feel if she finds out. Ngayon na nalaman na "present and future" thru FB with photo evidence, guluhan na ng mundo. It was obviously the guy's fault.
What if ang situation baliktad, what if ikaw yung pumunta sa party at may pic kayo ng ex mo na "almost kissing" kayo? Ano kaya ang reaction nya? I guess as babae nasabi mo na rin yan sa kanya, and i assumed he just ignored it. But one thing is sure pag nasabi mo yun, nailagay mo sa utak nya ang possiblity. Pero ang lalaki hanggang langit ang pride we are too confident that our "present and future" will not do that to us. It is defense mechanism, pero we got the picture, so dont do it! If I'm your guy I would not take the risk not because im afraid that my "present and future" would do it to me but because I will not subject her to a PAIN SHE DOESN"T DESERVE. Some call it UNCALLED PAIN!
Figth for your realtionship if you think you can be happy together not because you cant live without it!
One more thing, dont tell him its ok to do it again! :P
Happy new year!
@ AloC
I can sense you're talking from experience. :D
Sad to say, not all of us is sensitive enough to consider the feelings of our "present". Selfishness takes the better part in us. That's what happened I think, to the BF of BrokenheartedMe. But then, according to her, it doesn't happened once. She trusted him too much that he was over-confident that she wouldn't leave him, but isn't it tiring to be in the same situation over and over again? I think it's not worth fighting for anymore.
hahahahaist...ang masasabi ko lng stop torturing yourself girl....ala nmang mawawala ko mag uusap kau,,,but girl be ready for his answers make sure na my irerebutt...hehehehe
sabihin na natin////laging unfair ang love....swerte swertehan lng yannn.,,,..hehhee
@tochie
Exprience? sure...Ang mga naranasan natin sa buhay makes us a better person.. especially if you suffered. Happines doesnt make you a better person..it simply makes you happy and anyone else around you... pain always led to something else. Pwedeng death, pwedeng new life. Depende how stupid the person is :D anyways enough about experience.
"not all of us is sensitive enough to consider the feelings of our "present" - Probably thats because one doesnt care that much
Infedility.. if it happens once it will happen again. Totoo yan! :P Bakit nga ba gagawin ng isang tao sa partner nya kung tunay nga nyang minamahal ang partner nya. Obviously he went to the party not because of the party... bakit pa sya pumunta na alam nya na masasaktan ang "present and future" nya pag malaman ito. He went there to see her again. The moment he decided to attend the pary.. he knew it would be trouble pag malaman. Im sure he was aware of it.. di naman sya tanga siguro.. but still he went. He took the risk.. and gambled. Ngayon nagkagulo na... was it worth it? If you said it happened more than once.. then I assume he thinks its worth it and again sssuming he is overly confident he could patch any heartache ng girl nya. Why in the world would he do it? Probably mahal nya pa ex nya.. probably hindi nya mahal ang "present and future" nya. Who knows?
For them I can't really say its not worth fighting na anymore.. that includes you :P
Love makes people do crazy things...
"not all of us is sensitive enough to consider the feelings of our "present" - Probably thats because one doesnt care that much
if that's the case, why waste time with that person? there's someone out there you's worth fighting for, who will care and be sensitive enough to respect your feelings.
seryoso???
@ AloC
very much fascinated with your words of wisdom... are you loyal or faithful? are you in relationship in the first place? it seems that you're so much in love...or did you commit the same mistake and cost the lost of a loved one?
there's a thin line between love and hate.
Hegel says: A thing or thought could not be separated from its opposite.
so, in relationship, there's not only happiness but also hurt.
the question is, how much hurt do we have to take for us to stop loving?
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